Why do we procrastinate?
What is procrastination, really?
Procrastination is actually hesitation caused by the fear of
the results we would get if we did whatever it is we are procrastinating
about.
It can either be the fear of success or the fear of failure.
Why is it that you are procrastinating? Figure it out, take
care of it, stop procrastinating. Good luck!
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What are goals?
Goals are specific, action-oriented targets.
If you want to realize your goals, you need to:
Define your goals
Discuss them with your peers, but ONLY if your peers can help
you
Visualize your goals as having already been accomplished
Commit to them in writing
Goals should be just out of your current reach, but not unobtainable.
How do you handle YOUR goals?
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What are daydreams?
Daydreams are goals just beginning. If you want to change your
life around, start dreaming up some good goals.
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What are *dominant thoughts*?
Dominant thoughts are goals or obsessions that you continually
think about. They are what your actual priorities are.
Look around your life and you will see the results of your dominant
thoughts.
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What is Self-Talk?
Self-talk is what you say to yourself. The silent conversations
you have with yourself every waking second of your life.
Self-talk comes out in the conversations you have with others.
If you don't like what you say to others, watch what you say to
yourself.
What kind of self-talk do YOU have?
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Bad things are happening all the time.
Good things are happening all the time.
What you are paying attention to controls how your body will feel.
If you are hearing, reading, seeing bad things all the time, then
that is how your body will ultimately be feeling. It won't be
able to help it.
Just like you can't put a child in a family that yells and curses
all the time and expect her or him to feel happy.
Think about it. Take control of your environment so that you can
live a happy and fulfilled life. Give yourself a chance.
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Is there anything I can do for you?
Isn't that a lovely question? How many times a day do you say
it?
IS there anything I can do for you?
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Hang on to your dreams.
There are times when you think all is lost, but those are the
times to hang on to your dreams.
Dreams keep hope alive.
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Do you have a large vocabulary?
A large vocabulary implies broad, general knowledge and characterizes
the more successful person, regardless of her or his occupation.
Do you know how much time it takes to learn just one new word
a day? Five minutes, tops.
Learning one new word a day helps you build a large vocabulary
easily and effortlessly. Have you learned a new word today?
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Learn to create, not compete.
A successful lumber dealer told the newspaper reporters what he
did to stay ahead of the game.
Every night he said he sat quietly in his darkened room and relaxed.
Then, he tried to imagine how the lumber business would be conducted
ten years from now. He would write down everything that came to
him and tried to put them into effect in his business immediately.
He didn't want to wait for the ten years to come around. He wanted
to succeed now.
While his contemporaries were competing with him, he was creating
his future.
Learn to create, not compete. Every day, do some concentrated
thinking, visualizing, about yourself, your work, your family.
Anyone from ages ten to one hundred and ten can benefit from this
way of thinking. Create life. Live life. Enjoy life.
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Do you know when problems occur?
Problems usually occur when there is a gap between where you are
and where you want to be.
In other words, as soon as you define a goal, you've made a problem
because you don't yet have your goal.
Problems are lessened when goals are stated as projects and a
map of sorts is made to get to the goal.
That being the case, the minute you make a goal, make plans on
how you can achieve it. You bypass the *problem* area instantly.
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Do you have a goal?
Here are the following steps to achieving it.
1. State your goal in a positive affirmation. *I bring in X amount
of money each week.*
2. Visualize yourself achieving it. See, hear, feel how having
that goal looks, hears, feels.
3. Ask yourself, *Does it feel like I can REALLY do it?* If not,
figure out what is needed or missing and do everything you can
to supply it.
4. Keep visualizing every day, adding new sites, sounds, and feelings.
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When a right-handed person wants to be creative, his or her eyes
usually go to the upper right to construct the project.
Why not try something different? Why not look to your upper right,
then to the center, then to the lower left? Or go in a square?
Shake things up a little. See if you can be even more creative
by moving your eyes around. Feel the change.
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People normally like people who are like themselves.
For instance, if you would like to gain rapport with someone,
spend a moment observing that person. Is that person smiling?
Does that person use his/her hands when s/he speaks? Does s/he
stand close to, or farther away, from the person s/he is speaking
to?
Once you've determined the answers to those questions, you can
approach that person, unobtrusively duplicate his or her actions,
and gain rapport.
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Do you know that sometimes we anchor
people and we don't even know it?
Visualize this anchor: You're at a funeral. You touch the shoulder
of the widow, look her in the eyes, and say *I am so sorry for
your loss.*
How is she anchored, you ask? When a person is in a deep frame
of mind -- and grief is definitely one of the deepest -- and they
are touched, that same type of touch, no matter where she is,
will trigger a deep sense of loss.
Be aware of anchors. If a person is laughing like crazy, that
is another deep state. It's also a good time for an anchor. Put
your face in front of that person's -- not too close, just be
noticeable -- and touch her shoulder and laugh with her. She'll
remember you fondly.
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Communication is like a dance. Would you purposely go to the left
when your partner needed you to go to the right?
No, right?
Then, if you want to gain rapport, would you purposely speak loudly
when they speak softly or crowd their space when they tend to
shy away from people? I don't think so.
Watch your *partner.* Communicate as they do and enjoy rapport.
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Words. They can build relationships. They can destroy relationships.
What words would you choose to describe your relationship?
Happy? Pain in the butt? Loving? Stressful?
What if you chose to say it was a pain in the butt? If that's
the case, you shouldn't be too surprised if it goes nowhere.
What if you decided to say your relationship was loving?
It might mean the difference between staying together and growing
apart.
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If you adopted a new set of words, wouldn't that change your emotional
responses?
How about if you said you *annoyed,* instead of *enraged*?
Or *kind of upset,* instead of *damn mad*?
Or *those funny people,* instead of *those clowns!*?
If you have a word that indicates just how upset you are, why
not try replacing it? See if that doesn't help your emotional
state. When you see how well that works, why don't you check out
the rest of your vocabulary? See the changes that can make in
your life.
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Use it or lose it!
Did you know that courage unused, diminishes? That commitment
unexercised, leaves? That passion unexpressed is no longer passion?
Find your courage every day and use it. Watch it grow.
Commit to do something every day, and you will find more good
things to commit to.
Every day let your passion grow. Never let it diminish.
Encourage your passion, and watch as your family, your profession,
your respect for yourself and others, flourishes.
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What is a cliché?
It's a phrase which has lost its meaning through constant use.
Is the meaning you give your life a cliché?
Give it a new twist. See if you can give your life a new meaning.
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Quiz:
What is the famous sentence that can help you if you are being
held back in your life?
Ask not what your country can do for you, but what you can do
for your country. (Paraphrased) What can you do to help others?
When we get our minds off of what we want and on to what we can
do for others, what we want usually shows up in our lives.
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Do you feel stupid? Why not mentally say this to yourself several
times a day: *My mind is like a sponge. I want to know the answer
to everything.*
Guess what? Pretty soon you will have many of the answers, because
your brain will start acting like a sponge and absorbing things
at a rapid pace.
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Do your employees, children, spouse,
coworkers make mistakes?
Do you let them make mistakes without fear of punishment or rejection?
If you do, you know there's a difference. There's a difference
in the process and there's a difference in the outcome.
Treat mistakes as learning devices that are stepping stones to
success, and you'll succeed faster.
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Did you know that when you buy your kids a car, that car has a
pretty good chance of ending up as a statistic?
Cars given by parents get junked at least three years earlier
than cars purchased by kids.
At the very least, have the kids save for the down payment, then
go to the bank with them and cosign the note. Give your kids pride
of ownership early in their young lives so they will know how
it feels, and the responsibility that goes with it.
Remember. You can and must give your children your love, your
respect, and your wisdom. That's how you earn their love and respect.
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Do you think of your life as a *Do-it-yourself*
project?
If not, why not?
If you hand the responsibility of your life over to others, then
they are living your life for you. Does that make your life something
you can be proud of? Probably not.
Start today with a *Do-it-yourself* project. Then, start tomorrow
with another one. And so on and so on. It may not be what you
want at first, but with practice it will be.
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Do you know the power of self-talk?
Pretend your brain is on your shoulder.
Now, it can only hear what you tell it. It can't hear what others
are telling you. It can only hear what you are thinking and saying.
It doesn't matter what others are telling you if you don't believe
them. You filter what they say and that's what your brain hears.
Does it hear, *I don't believe that. How can anyone think I'm
pretty?* *I don't think that two martinis are bad for you.* *How
can anyone possibly want my opinion? I'm so stupid.* Whatever
you are thinking, your brain is listening. What if you said, *I'm
getting better every day.*? Your brain has no idea what you are
talking about, so it just goes about making you better at the
things you do. You've just given yourself a chance. Congratulations!
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Do you know what the best kept secret of success is?
Your brain doesn't know the difference between something real
and something repeatedly and vividly imagined.
Did you have an experience that wasn't good? Why not get your
brain busy seeing vividly, and repeatedly, a better experience.
When your brain tries to think about the *real* experience, shift
immediately to your visualization of a better experience. Do that
continuously. Pretty soon, your thoughts will just go to the visualization.
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Remember this for your New Year's Resolution. Every cause brings
its effect. Every action has a consequence.
What does that mean?
If you plant apples, you'll reap apples. If you plant goodness,
you'll reap goodness. Start your new year out planting lots of
goodness.
Smile as you reap the rewards.
Look at every action you make. What will it bring you? If you
don't like what it will bring you, ultimately, then start finding
new actions to use.
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