Negative Feelings. Do You Wish You Didn't Have Them?

Do you hate your sister's boyfriend, your spouse's parents, the way someone cracks their gum, coffee breath, people who mumble, people who wear purple?

So wouldn't it be great if you could nullify those feelings that aren't getting you anywhere? If you could nullify those feelings that put you in the position of judging people before getting to know them?

Well, guess what. You can! There's a technique that's called "Collapsing Negative Experiences". And here's how you do it:

Sit down and relax. Now, think of the most powerful, positive experience you've ever had in your life. Take your time and really embellish the experience in your mind -- until you feel really good, really powerful.

Just imagine taking that feeling and putting it in your right hand.

Now, think of a time when you felt powerful, positive, loving feelings, and put those feelings in your right hand as well, feeling how they feel there.

Remember a time when you laughed or giggled hysterically, when you were really having a great time. Take that experience and put it into your right hand as well. Notice how it feels with all those loving, positive, powerful feelings.

Now, see what color these powerful feelings have come together to create in your right hand.

See what shape they have come together to form.

If those feelings were to say something to you, what would they say? And, if you were to give them a sound, what would they all sound like?

What is the texture of all these feelings as they come together in your hand?

Take a moment and enjoy all these feelings, then close your right hand and just let them remain there.

Now, open your left hand, and, in it, place a negative experience where you were frustrated, depressed, angry, afraid, or worried.

Place it in your left hand. There is no need to feel it inside, just let it sit there. Make sure you disassociate from it -- it's just over there in your left hand.

Now I want you to become aware of the different submodalities there, also. What color does this negative situation create in your left hand?

What shape is it?

Does it feel light or heavy? What's the texture of it.

What does it say to you, and what sound does it make?

Now we will 'collapse anchors'.

Take the color in your positive right hand, and make believe it's a liquid. Quickly pour it into your left hand. Giggle and have fun with it as you do.

Next, take the sound that your left hand was making and plop! drop it into your right hand.

What did your right hand do with it?

Now take the feelings in your right hand and pour them into your left hand. What happens to your left hand the minute they enter it?

Now, bring your hands together in a clap, and hold them there for a few minutes until they feel equal. Now the color in both hands should be the same. Ditto with the feelings.

So, how does the experience in your left hand feel? Are the negative feelings gone? I bet so.

You know what you've done? You've stripped it of the power it had on you! Feels good, doesn't it? Took care of your *problem*, didn't it? How does that feel? Like maybe you've taken control of your feelings? That's a great feeling, isn't it!

You'll find that the more you use this technique, the less you're negative feelings will come around.