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Did You Ever Think About Saying "No"?
~ By Jan Tincher

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Sometimes bad things happen and we just give up. Why? . . .

Why, when we can make a difference, make a change, in what is happening in our lives at any time? If something bad is happening, we have the option of saying yes or no. Instead, many of us say something equivalent to "Yes, OK, bring it on, etc." out of default, thinking wrongly that we didn’t have a choice.

We need to be aware of the power the word No has to our subconscious mind.

Think about an old plow horse. He goes up and down the rows every day, and doesn’t stop until he comes to the end of the row. Then, he turns around and goes back the same way. Always.

Well, what would happen if the farmer bought a new acreage that was longer than the old one? He’d have to help the plow horse, wouldn’t he? He’d have to walk the plow horse past where the plow horse was used to stopping and go clear to the end, then turn him around and walk him to the other end. He’d have to repeat the process until the plow horse got used to it and would do it on his own. In effect, what the farmer did was continually say to the plow horse, *Come on. I know you can do it, you’re going to get the hang of it. Let’s go.*

That’s how our brain works. Every day it does the same process, does the same thing -- UNLESS you tell it to do differently. If you’ve always smoked, every day your brain is going to direct your hand to reach for a cigarette the same time, or for the same reason, it did yesterday. UNLESS you tell it to do differently.

YOU have to take control and decide not to smoke anymore. In this case, you have to give your brain enough experiences of NOT smoking, so that that will be the habit it has. Just as the farmer had to change the plow horse’s direction every day at the same place. Remember the power of saying No. Think of your brain as the plow horse, your mind as the farmer.

Here is an example of how a continuous action brought results when most people would have given up:

A man had a heart attack, but his friend did not want him to die. He kept talking to him until the ambulance came, even though the man was mostly unconscious. The friend knew the power of No. He did not want him to die. He kept talking to him, reminding him of his family and all the things he loved and the people that depended on him, and that he couldn’t die. He reminded him that people love him and need him. He was providing what the man couldn’t provide for himself. Hope. He did not want him to die, he was saying No, and he was saying it very congruently. The man lived.

Do you know someone suffering from Alzheimer’s, cancer, or some other debilitating disease? Do you accept behaviors that aren’t normally acceptable, and, in fact, expect it? Or, in your mind, do you say No?

NOTE: I am not saying No in the real sense, so I am not saying to ignore that they can’t stand, remember, or whatever. I am saying No to seeing them sick, weak, etc. Help them help themselves. Say No every day to the disease and help them get better. Every day that you watch them suffer, you are saying yes. Keep your mind clear and focused on health, not on watching them suffer.

There is a difference between keeping your mind focused on health and getting your hopes up. Many people are so afraid of doing getting their hopes up. Take charge of the situation by keeping your mind on your goal. Your goal for them is health. They need that. Can you find it in yourself to see them healthy, or do you insist on seeing "reality"?

How many times have we stayed in the background when we could have helped? How many times did we feel more concern for how things looked then we did for the fact that we could make a difference? Make a point to say No to bad things that happen to you and others, and say it congruently. Congruently means everything about you is saying no. Look in the mirror. Does your expression say No? Does your stance say No? When you speak, does your tonality say No?

If they don’t, that’s just an opportunity for you to realize you need to make a change. Sit down and visualize what you would look like if you were really congruent. When you have the picture down pat, look in the mirror. You see before you a person who knows how to say No to bad things that happen to them. Doesn’t that feel great?

Find your power. Make your choices. Learn how to say No where it counts.

Thanks for reading,

Jan

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