What Are You Thinking?
~ By Jan Tincher

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What are you thinking when someone that is different walks by?

Do you judge them? . . .

Many people do. It's hard not to. We don't say what we're thinking when we judge someone, especially if we are trying to live a good life. But that doesn't stop us from thinking it regardless, for judging that person just for being different than we are.

Judging is really easy to do. We don't like to do it, but it happens. To some more than most.

How about this? Someone walks by and he's not dressed very well at all. You have your own thoughts about people like him that you've grown up with. Were you taught, by actual words or by pattern, to make fun of someone like that?

But that's not who you are now, is it? No. But you still find those thoughts creeping in at times, don't you?

How about when a person of another race goes by. What were you taught while growing up? That's more than likely what's going through your mind.

An overweight person walks by. Would the thoughts you have embarrass you if THEY knew what you were thinking?

A person in an old car goes by and it's making a lot of noise. What goes through your mind?

A mentally or physically challenged person goes by. What do you think? A person the kids always made fun of in school goes by. What do you think? An older lady with pink hair goes by. What do you think?

Now, if you are a mentally or physically challenged person, or a person the kids always made fun of in school, or an older lady with pink hair, then that person isn't different. As a rule, you'll have empathy, you don't actually judge them. People usually don't judge people who are just like they are. But there are lots of people who aren't just like us and that's usually who we judge.

See, we all try to be good, think good thoughts, do good deeds, etc. But in our minds, where we think no one knows what we're thinking, we don't keep a constant monitor on our thoughts. And some of us are very thankful no one knows how judgmental we are.

Well, wouldn't you like to be less judgmental? Wouldn't you like to be more accepting?

Here's what you can do. The minute you find that you are in the process of judging someone or something, stop and say, aloud or in your mind, "Thank you." That stops the flow your thoughts were on and puts your mind toward better things.

TIP: If "Thank you" doesn't work for you, find something that does. The words don't really matter -- if they are good. The process is what matters. Remember, whatever works, works.

The minute you realize you are judging someone say, aloud or in your mind, "Thank you", or whatever you've decided on, again.

The minute you realize you are judging someone say, aloud or in your mind, "Thank you", or whatever you've decided on, again.

The minute you realize you are judging someone say, aloud or in your mind, "Thank you", or whatever you've decided on, again.

Get the idea? If you are busy saying "Thank you", or whatever you've decided on, you can't judge. You can only think one thing at a time. Make your decision now that WHAT you are going to think is what you WANT to think. See how that changes your life. Let me know. I care.

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Thanks for reading,

Jan

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