Jan Tincher, Master Neuro Linguistic Programmer
Jan Tincher
Master Neuro Linguistic Programmer

What Defines You?

What defines you? When some define themselves, it's like they are looking around, and saying, "This is what I am. I am a fireman. I am a husband. I am a father. I am a grandfather." Or "I am a publisher. I am a wife. I am a mother. I am a grandmother." Or whatever they feel they need to introduce and define themselves as.

I want to go deeper than that. I want you to define what you are deep in your soul. Are you a giving person? Are you a selfish person? Are you a loving person? Are you a spiteful person? Are you a nervous person? You define yourself by your actions.

Here are some ways you define yourself.

When you are walking with someone and someone else comes along and makes fun of that person, do you define yourself by stepping back, or do you stay with them? Why let someone, good or bad, define you? You probably didn't mean to, but your actions defined you.

You only run around with the good crowd. You buy expensive things, whether you can afford them or not. You don't walk or sit beside old people, because you are afraid what others might think.

That is defining YOU, the you deep inside.

Realize now, that that person beside you, whether you love them or hate them, does not define YOU. Move away or toward them only if YOU want to move away or toward them, not because others do.

If you are driving an older car until you can afford a better one, do you let that define you? Are you embarrassed to be seen driving it? Do you feel badly to be associated with it? Why not hold your head up and go about your business?

Are you engaged and the ring your fiancé gave you isn't as big as you would have liked? Does that ring define YOU?

If you are a teenager and you are with your folks, are you embarrassed by them? Why? They aren't you.

Think for a moment. What is wrong with each of these pictures? You are embarrassed by something you have no control over at this time. You are letting it define you, which mean you are letting it embarrass you, make you feel guilty, make you act like you wish you wouldn't. Everyone knows why you are moving away from someone if it is obvious enough. Are you man enough or woman enough to stick by these people or situations, or are you letting the situation define you?

Every day, make your own definition of who you are. You'll be glad you did.

Thanks for reading,

Jan Tincher, Master Neuro Linguistic Programmer

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